Narcissist Recovery Blog

Join us Tonight - Divorcing the Narcissist

Please join us tonight for our Blog Talk Radio Show where I will be joined by Elena, who recently finalized her divorce from a narcissist. We will discuss the process of divorcing a narcissist and offer tips and strategies to best get through this difficult and painful process. A narcissist will never make this easy, but if you are equipped with the right tools and resources, you can get through this. Please send your questions to me at and we will answer tonight during our show or join us live on the call and ask questions over the phone!

Please click below for link to show details:

Tonight, Wednesday, May 27th at 9:30 p.m. CST!

Please join us for our second show, Wednesday, May 27th at 9:30 p.m. Central Standard Time!

Lisa E. Scott, author of "It's All About Him" will continue her discussion with book/messageboard readers on how to recognize a narcissist before you get hurt. This week Lisa is joined by Elena, a messageboard reader who just finalized her divorce from a pathological narcissist two weeks ago. Join us as we help you understand the narcissist in your life, discuss coping strategies, and provide you with a critical support network of people who can relate to what you're going through.

Thank You and Our New Show!

I want to thank everyone for their support of my book/cd launch party last Thursday. Thanks to all of you for supporting my message and getting the word out about narcissism through your contributions to our messageboard, we are finally starting to make some headway in building awareness about narcisssism! Check out our media coverage in Crain's Chicago:


Crain's Chicago Business: Identifying the narcissist — one woman's tale by Shia Kapos - Friday, May 8, 2009

My Music

If I may, I'd like to share my music with all of you. It seems especially appropriate this evening as a few of you have recently shared experiences with us where your ex-narcissist behaved in such a way that he gave you the clarity you need to move on and never look back. As I said, be thankful. Eventually, a narcissist shows his true colors and when he does he unknowingly gives you a gift - the gift of clarity.

My Launch Party

I'm getting excited for my Book & CD launch party this Thursday, May 7th! There is a media party from 6:00 to 9:00 pm at the Drawing Room, followed by an after-party at Le Passage where we plan to do lots of dancing.

I would love to see you there if you're in the area or passing through town! Below are the details of the event. If you can make it, please e-mail my publicist, Judy Fitzgerald, to confirm your attendance!

Always Remember Why The Narcissist Chose Us

I want to bump up this post by Mariline as I believe it is so important we remember why the narcissist chose us. Too often, we are made to feel we should have known better or we were "duped" easily by these narcissistic con-men.

I want us all to remember that they targeted us because we are caring, compassionate, intelligent, successful and independent women. We are not weak and naive as some would like to suggest.

Narcissists choose us because they know they can take a lot from us and gain tremendously by being in a relationship with us. These men want to be taken care of and choose only the best and the brightest to take care of them. For this, we should never feel ashamed. Angry, sure, but never ashamed.

Why Narcissists Have No Empathy

The easiest way to think about it is this : Narcissists are stuck at age five.

One of the most well-known theories in pyschology is Sigmund Freud's theory that as children, we pass through different psychosexual stages. According to Freud, if a child is deprived or over-indulged in any of these stages, it results in what he calls "fixation." Fixation describes an adult who is stuck or attached to an earlier childhood mode of satisfacion.