Narcissist Recovery Blog

Wes on "The Bachelorette" is a Raging Narcissist

Ok, you know I despise reality television, but I cannot resist watching ABC's "The Bachelor/ette" because inevitably, there is always a character on this show who is a raging Narcissist. This season it is Wes, the bachelor who was rightfully dismissed from this week's show for being a raging Narcissist.

I will gladly take this opportunity to provide America with a real-life example of a quintessential Narcissist by dedicating my blog talk radio show to discussing what makes Wes a Narcissist, as well as how to recognize a Narcissist before you get hurt.

Dating the Narcissist - Blog Talk Radio tonight at 9pm CST

Lisa E. Scott, author of "It's All About Him" will continue her discussion with book/messageboard readers on how to recognize a narcissist before you get hurt and offer coping strategies to those already involved in a relationship with a narcissist. In this week's episode, Lisa and Elena will discuss what it is like to date a narcissist and point out red flags you can look for to avoid getting in too deep with a narcissist.

www.blogtalkradio.com/allabouthim

Wes on "The Bachelorette" is a Raging Narcissist

Ok, ladies, who is watching the Bachelorette this season? As you know I find reality television apalling at times. However, ABC's "The Bachelorette" always seems to suck me in since it's about dating and relationships. I love observing human behavior, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. While I don't know if any of it is real, I do like to analyze it all.

Jillian has a great personality and seems very intelligent. Unfortunately, as has happened to many of us, she is being duped by a con-artist. Wes is a raging narcissist. He is as fake as they get. Both Tanner and Jake tried to tell her, but she does not want to believe it. Why does she refuse to believe it? Because he is charming as hell and brilliant at manipulating her.

Radio Interview about my book "It's All About Him" NARCISSISM EXPOSED

Last week I was interviewed about my book on 700 WLW Cincinnati Afternoon Drive Show by Eddy Fingers and Tracy Jones. It was a fun conversation and I would like to share it with all of you as we collectively continue to build awareness about narcissism. You can click on link below to be taken to my Press Page, which has an mp3 of the interview.

http://www.lisaescott.com/press-releases

Join us Thursday, June 25th at 9pm CST for Blog Talk Radio Show on Narcissism

Lisa E. Scott, author of "It's All About Him" will continue her discussion with book/messageboard readers on how to recognize a narcissist before you get hurt and offer coping strategies to those already involved in a relationship with a narcissist. In this week's episode, Lisa and Barbara will specifically discuss the different ways a narcissist manipulates, including the confusing cycle of being idealized by the narcissist to completely discarded and devalued.

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Ladies, Why are We Drawn to the Bad Boy?

I was being interviewed yesterday about my book and one of the questions the interviewer asked me was:

"Why do you continue to be attracted to narcissistic men?"

I explained that narcissists are fun and fascinating people at first. They're charming, adventurous, fun, witty and great conversationalists. They're typically very well-read, fun to banter with and very philosophical. I explained that you do not see their true colors until after settling down with them.

His response to my reply:

"Oh, so you like the bad boy?"

This led to an interesting conversation about what women love about the bad boy. Barbara forwarded me the link below and I'm posting it here because I'd love to hear your thoughts. What do you think?!

Listen to this evening's blog talk radio show on Narcissism

When a narcissist creates and projects a false image of who he imagines himself to be, he is either somatic or cerebral. In other words, he either attracts attention by utilizing his physical attributes or by applying his intelligence. The somatic narcissist flaunts his body, exhibits his muscles, and brags about his physical conquests. A cerebral narcissist uses his intellect or talent to attract attention. All narcissists are both cerebral and somatic. However, one type is always dominant in a narcissist.

Reality TV Breeds Narcissism

One of our messageboard members, Finallydone, made two comments on our Vain Forum that really struck a chord with me and I must respond:

"Part of the problem with Narcissism in America is this type of junk reality programming."

I couldn't agree with you more. Reality television is a big reason the younger generation is so much more narcissistic than we are. I grew up watching Family Ties, Growing Pains and the Cosby Show. Shows that promoted good values and taught important life lessons. Remember "The Facts of Life" sitcom?!

Upcoming Blog Talk Radio Show on Narcissism - Wednesday, June 10 at 9pm CST

When a narcissist creates and projects a false image of who he imagines himself to be, he is either somatic or cerebral. In other words, he either attracts attention by utilizing his physical attributes or by applying his intelligence. The somatic narcissist flaunts his body, exhibits his muscles, and brags about his physical conquests. A cerebral narcissist uses his intellect or talent to attract attention. All narcissists are both cerebral and somatic. However, one type is always dominant in a narcissist.

The Confusion of being Idealized to completely Devalued by the Narcissist

Being in love with a narcissist is a confusing state of affairs, to say the
least. In the beginning, a narcissist makes you feel incredibly loved and
valued. He appears to be head-over-heels in love with you and worships
the ground you walk on. He writes you poetry, takes you out for romantic
dinners, and finds all your little quirks endearing and adorable.

Once a narcissist feels he has obtained control of you (through mar-
riage or moving in together), you will see a completely different side of
him that you never knew existed. Narcissists have often been described as
having a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality. Once in control, a narcis-
sist becomes demeaning and cruel.

Narcissists are oblivious to others and how their behavior affects

Why Narcissists are Addicted to Pornography

A new member of our forum brought this topic up today so I thought I would copy and paste some text from my book, which explains why narcissists are addicted to porn. If your narc is addicted to porn, please know this is not your fault. It has nothing to do with you. It's all about him!

Narcissists do not see women in a healthy way. They are unable to see a woman as cute (i.e. sweet) and sexy at the same time. No, narcissists categorize women into one of two separate categories—saintly or sexy. They have a very difficult time seeing a woman as both. To them, a woman is either one or the other, but never both. This is what psychologists refer to as a Madonna-whore complex.

Join us Tonight - Divorcing the Narcissist

Please join us tonight for our Blog Talk Radio Show where I will be joined by Elena, who recently finalized her divorce from a narcissist. We will discuss the process of divorcing a narcissist and offer tips and strategies to best get through this difficult and painful process. A narcissist will never make this easy, but if you are equipped with the right tools and resources, you can get through this. Please send your questions to me at lisalou2@gmail.com and we will answer tonight during our show or join us live on the call and ask questions over the phone!

Please click below for link to show details:

www.blogtalkradio.com/allabouthim

Tonight, Wednesday, May 27th at 9:30 p.m. CST!