Narcissist Recovery Blog

Get Real - Honor Your Anger

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on June 26, 2017 - 5:45pm

I recently noticed a member post to our forum about the difficulty she is having getting angry. A friend of mine, currently going through a breakup with a raging narcissist, told me the same thing last week….that she’s having trouble getting mad and feels stuck in a state of overwhelming sadness.

The Six Steps I created on The Path Forward are not rocket science, but in my opinion, you must work each and every one of them in order to heal from a narcissist and that includes honoring your anger.

Six Tips for Surviving the Narcissist at Work

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on June 1, 2017 - 8:32am

Recent events have made it difficult to deny we now live in an America where unabashed narcissism is rewarded everywhere we look. From Donald Trump’s Twitter rants to Greg Gianforte’s assault on an innocent journalist, it seems people no longer believe the rules apply to them and it’s ok to be a bully.

Does it seem that narcissism has not only taken over the oval office, but is now beginning to dominate your own workplace? If so, you are not alone. Increasing rates of narcissism are forcing many to deal with the reality of the narcissist at work.

Today is World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day!

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on June 1, 2017 - 7:56am

I am happy to share with you that I will be participating in this year’s 2nd Annual Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Virtual Summit in honor of World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day, which is today, Thursday, June 1st.

World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNNAD) is celebrated on June 1st every year and is a growing global movement dedicated to raising the profile of narcissistic abuse. To learn more about WNAAD or to join the cause, please visit http://www.wnaad.com

Five Myths about the Narcissist at Work

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on May 22, 2017 - 6:33pm

While narcissism has become a sign of our times, it is often misunderstood. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a disguise for a deep-seated sense of shame the person with NPD lives with, but often does not realize. The shame and insecurity they feel causes them to lash out at others and be overly controlling and abusive in their relationships. Learning about NPD and how it manifests itself in both personal and work relationships is an essential survival skill in today’s increasingly narcissistic world.

Unlock Your True Potential

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on April 16, 2017 - 8:24am

Spring is a very symbolic and powerful time. It is a time of rebirth and renewal. A time to rise again. We lose ourselves in the narcissist. Whether you celebrate Easter, Passover or Bodhisattva, Spring is a time for us to tap into our innate potential and find ourselves again.

Finding yourself after being in a relationship with a narcissist is not easy, but absolutely necessary in order to heal. I believe we must tap into our spirituality in order to connect with ourselves again. I am a spiritual person, but not an overly religious person.

The Rise of the Narcissistic Leader

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on March 14, 2017 - 8:17am

Narcissism has become a sign of our times. You probably don’t need anyone to point this out to you. Nor does one need to be told that working for a narcissistic boss can have negative effects on your mental health. However, did you know that a new study from the University of Manchester’s Business School has found that those who work for narcissistic leaders are more likely to engage in counter-productive work behavior of their own?

Valentine's Day Gift

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on February 13, 2017 - 1:22pm

Valentine’s Day means different things to different people. Some dismiss it is as nothing more than a Hallmark holiday while others have grand expectations of what their loved ones should do to express their love on the fourteenth of February.

Either way you choose to look at it, I’d like to give you an opportunity to share the gift that keeps on giving with your loved ones…..knowledge. Knowledge is power as we always say. I’ve been writing about narcissism for close to ten years now and what never ceases to amaze me is the lack of knowledge out there on this topic.

Surviving the Female Narcissist - When It's All About Her

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on April 26, 2014 - 12:53pm

Are you in a relationship with a woman obsessed with her image? Is she consumed with her needs to the exclusion of all others? Do you feel you can do nothing right in her eyes no matter what lengths you go to please her? Is it…ALL ABOUT HER…all the time?

If so, you may be in a relationship with a female narcissist. My third book, "Surviving the Female Narcissist - When It’s All About Her” will help you understand the personality of a female narcissist and why a relationship with someone like this will eventually drain, exhaust and confound you.

Charlie & The Female Narcissist

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on January 18, 2014 - 4:21pm

Charlie and Monica had been together several months and Monica was still going to dinner with other men on a regular basis. Despite wanting Charlie to put a ring on her finger, Monica did not understand why Charlie had an issue with the fact that she needed to have dinner with other men once or twice a week. She told him if she didn’t continue to see these other men, whom she swore were just friends, she would feel smothered and stifled by him.

Not only did she expect him to accept this without question, but he was never invited to join these dinners. For almost 8 months, Charlie put up with Monica going out to dinner in NYC with other men, most of whom she once dated and were obviously attempting to win her over.

An Attitude of Gratitude After the Narcissist?#@!

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on November 27, 2013 - 11:10pm

The happiest people do not have the best of everything, they make the best of everything.

We've all heard that an "Attitude of Gratitude" can change your life. Thanksgiving is a perfect time to explore this and be grateful for life's lessons.

We cannot control what happens to us in life, but we can control how we respond to it, right? How we respond, in my opinion, is what makes all the difference in the world.

When coming out of a relationship with an abusive narcissist, we face a huge amount of uncertainty.

Did he ever love me?
Will he ever change?
Will he try to win me back?

Spanish Version of "The Path Forward" Now Available

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on October 16, 2013 - 12:37pm

The Spanish version of "The Path Forward - Surviving a Narcissist" is now available in both print and e-book versions. Please help us spread the word so we can continue to build awareness!

http://www.amazon.com/El-Camino-Por-Delante-Sobrevivir/dp/0985832711/ref...

Que de repente se encuentra en una relación con alguien que cree que es todo acerca de él? ¿Está usted en amor con alguien que es demasiado crítico, degradante y cruel, incluso? ¿Se siente como si usted no puede hacer nada bien le parece? ¿Está constantemente hace sentir culpable cuando no has hecho nada malo? ¿Está golpeando sucabeza contra la pared tratando de averiguar cómo su relación pasó de un cuento de hadas a un choque de trenes durante la noche?

Why is it so Difficult to Stay Away from the Narcissist?

Submitted by Lisa E. Scott on July 20, 2013 - 2:25pm

Many of us don’t understand why it's so hard to stay away from the Narcissist even after we learn how toxic they are to us. Aside from their obvious charm, it's important to recognize how the Narcissist brainwashes us. I know it sounds dramatic, but it's true. Narcissists literally brainwash us. They know exactly how to keep us coming back with the lure, the promise and the hook. Understanding how they do this is helpful to your recovery.