This Valentine's Day...

This Valentine's Day...

27% of men said their romantic resolution is to have sex with the lights on
80% of people think they will get lucky this Valentine's Day
Less than 50% of people had good luck last year
40% of women want to try something new and kinky this Valentine’s Day
85% of women surveyed own a sex toy
57% of people in a new relationship (less than one year) talk about sex every day
50% of the population is single
54% of women say they are in a relationship, but it is not with their soul mate….WTF?!!

Every year we celebrate Valentine’s Day in our culture, but what is it we are really celebrating?

This Valentine’s Day, I’d like to point out how few people realize that the occasion of Valentine’s Day is NOT rooted so much in “love” but in “lovesickness.”

The Greek Poetess, Sapho who was known to fall hard for the men in her life once wrote “That man seems to me like the Gods…..this terrifies my heart.”

To be lovesick is to be blinded or so disillusioned by another person that you can’t see them for who they really are...this is truly terrifying because it is very dangerous.

We put ourselves in a position to be taken advantage of when we become lovesick. It’s careless and we simply must guard our hearts more than that. We owe it to ourselves.

So this year on Valentine’s Day, instead of wanting to be lovesick over someone, let’s celebrate the love we have for ourselves for a change.

After an emotionally abusive relationship, it is critical that we spend time alone and begin to nurture our relationship with ourselves. Self-compassion is the key to our recovery.

Although taking care of yourself will feel foreign at first, it is the best thing you can do right now. You must spend time alone before jumping into a new relationship. You need to find yourself again and enjoy the benefits of being alone. There are many.

We spend way too much time trying to form and nurture relationships with others who could potentially be our soul mate, when the whole time we neglect to nurture our relationship with ourselves! It is time to have a love affair with yourself!

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” ~ Oscar Wilde

You are finally living in the light and moving away from the darkness. It is time to connect with yourself again. Being in touch with yourself and your true emotions is truly a gift that we all should give ourselves.

This Valentine’s Day, instead of wanting to be lovesick with our head in the clouds over someone, let's celebrate the person we know we can always count on...ourselves!!!!!